Dog Rules VS Kid Rules
Yes there are rules for both. Good dog trainers will teach you the rules. I was reading the book about dog training, and though of the great similarity of raising children. The example is from dog rules, and is very similar to raising children.
The DOG RULES are not to be mean, suppress behavior, and force submission. The DOG RULES are to have a healthy joyful relationship that balances excitement and self-control. The rules encouraged the dogs behavior, and will make a "happy dog" that wants to please his or her master, and will obey commands and not do the nasty behavior that we don't want. Much of working with dogs is working as a team, listening, learning, creating trust in the relationship.
KID RULES, as a parent I feel are very much the same. We love our kids, and most pet owners love their dogs. We want to have good relationships with them, and want to encourage good behavior and discourage the BAD BEHAVIOR. I am not making people and dogs equal! I am recognizing the similarity between training dogs and children in many ways that are very similar.
EXAMPLE (from "Dog Rules")
"At the end of a class sit-stay exercise, I corrected one of my students who had just rewarded his dog after the dog had gotten up from his stay. "Do you realize you've just rewarded your dog for standing up?" I asked. "Giving him the treat after he's gotten up will cause him to think that standing up during a sit-stay will get him a treat. The rule is : Reward your dog while he's in the correct position". "Oh!" said my student in surprise. "Of course! That makes perfect sense. I wish somebody had told me that years ago!"
As a young parent we went to child training classes. It really was parent training. What to do, what not to do. But so much of it came down to being consistent. Setting up rules and following them. I am not a perfect parent, but consider my wife & myself good parents. Are kids listen to us most of the time. Much of the problems I see is with being inconsistent or allowing BAD BEHAVIOR and then rewarding it. Just as in the dog example, we as parents will give the kids a special something even after they done something wrong.
It is easier when they are young, to train dogs and kids. As our kids got older, we are numb to the disobedience and don't recognize as quickly. Also the decisions get more complicated, for example, let say "child one" is allowed to go to a friend's special party. Then right before the party we find out a behavior that is negative. As keeper of the rule, she shouldn't go right, but as parent we sometimes feel an emotion or expectation to the child of the party, or how we will appear to the parents of the party child. These situations will occur all the time. I try to discern between direct disobedience or just an accidental oversight. Following the rules has definitely made the road easier.
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