5 Methods to Turbo-Boost Your Parenting Skills
The 'phone conversation had nothing at all to do with parenting - however it made me think . . .
'Hello, Eastbank Football Club. Can I help you?'
'Good morning, may I speak with the Assistant Coach, please?'
'Oh, I'm sorry. He's still on vacation.'
'I see. Is anyone on the coaching staff there?'
'No, they're all away right now. The club's closed for another week however. I'm only the Groundsman.'
'Well, thank you anyway. And hey, why say you're only the Groundsman? If it wasn't for you, there wouldn't be a football club. They'd have nowhere to play!'
(Pause) 'Yeah, I'd never truly thought of it like that. (Laughter) Thanks a lot, pal, you have made my day!'
So often we do ourselves down, do not we? We devalue our very own contribution or service.
"I'm only a shop assistant!"
"I'm only a . . . " (fill in the blank!)
Sometimes we even hear ladies say: "I'm just a housewife"!
Confidence and self-esteem are often in brief supply these days. And nowhere more so compared to PARENTING!
Even those who are optimally confident in their work or social situations, frequently teeter on the edge when it comes to their parenting skills.
Why?
Is it some thing related to the breakdown in old-fashioned principles and concepts of authority; the widening gulf between children as well as their parents; the hazards we as parents are so really aware of, however that are gently ignored by our kids? Regardless of the causes, there is a lot you can do to enhance things. Dr Norman Vincent Peale, author of The Power Of Positive Thinking, used to advise people to sit down and write out a list of all their assets and abilities. However Dr Peale's next suggestion is crucial. As soon as the list of assets and abilities has been written, he tells us to raise the stakes.
Simply Believe that you are at the very least 10% better than you think. It is now extensively acknowledged in modern psychology that you'll still be way off the mark! So have faith. You are a whole lot better than you believe.
Secondly, carry out some study. You probably weren't taught parenting skills at school or college, however parenting is the most important contribution to society. You will find plenty of books, courses, tapes, CDs and videos on parenting.
No excuses! Grab some and get occupied. Knowledge and insight bring confidence. No matter what stage you're at, you are able to enhance yourself
. Thirdly, learn to temper your reaction in demanding parenting scenarios. Simpler said than done! But you are able to make a conscious attempt to remain calm and help remind yourself of Dr Peale's advice (You are more capable than you believe you're!), and you are able to apply what you have been studying about family dynamics.
A fourth method to increase your parenting abilities is to build yourself in some manner. Yes, keep in mind those piano lessons you as soon as took, or that art class you attended? Interests such as these are fantastic tension remedies and they develop self- confidence - which is important for parenting. If you feel you're already confident in other matters, but it is only in parenting you feel a lack, why not take up some activity with your children? Learning together brings you together, and could be fantastic fun
! Finally, avoid any temptation to go it on your own. Nature designed us to be social creatures. Seek out advice from grandparents, relatives, pals. Conquer your pride. Talk about your parenting issues with others and draw on the communal strength. And d'you know what? You'll find you're not the only one. Let's work on parenting collectively, as a community.
Confident parents raise confident kids.
Take action today. If you do nothing, you are able to anticipate more of the exact same old worry, tension, ill-feeling, etc. etc. Zap these negative trends as soon as and for all. To give yourself a real boost, check out our web site. And why not join our free monthly e-zine, Family Features? To show our gratitude we'll send you a totally free six-day e-mail course entitled A Step-By-Step Guide To Positive Parenting.
'Hello, Eastbank Football Club. Can I help you?'
'Good morning, may I speak with the Assistant Coach, please?'
'Oh, I'm sorry. He's still on vacation.'
'I see. Is anyone on the coaching staff there?'
'No, they're all away right now. The club's closed for another week however. I'm only the Groundsman.'
'Well, thank you anyway. And hey, why say you're only the Groundsman? If it wasn't for you, there wouldn't be a football club. They'd have nowhere to play!'
(Pause) 'Yeah, I'd never truly thought of it like that. (Laughter) Thanks a lot, pal, you have made my day!'
So often we do ourselves down, do not we? We devalue our very own contribution or service.
"I'm only a shop assistant!"
"I'm only a . . . " (fill in the blank!)
Sometimes we even hear ladies say: "I'm just a housewife"!
Confidence and self-esteem are often in brief supply these days. And nowhere more so compared to PARENTING!
Even those who are optimally confident in their work or social situations, frequently teeter on the edge when it comes to their parenting skills.
Why?
Is it some thing related to the breakdown in old-fashioned principles and concepts of authority; the widening gulf between children as well as their parents; the hazards we as parents are so really aware of, however that are gently ignored by our kids? Regardless of the causes, there is a lot you can do to enhance things. Dr Norman Vincent Peale, author of The Power Of Positive Thinking, used to advise people to sit down and write out a list of all their assets and abilities. However Dr Peale's next suggestion is crucial. As soon as the list of assets and abilities has been written, he tells us to raise the stakes.
Simply Believe that you are at the very least 10% better than you think. It is now extensively acknowledged in modern psychology that you'll still be way off the mark! So have faith. You are a whole lot better than you believe.
Secondly, carry out some study. You probably weren't taught parenting skills at school or college, however parenting is the most important contribution to society. You will find plenty of books, courses, tapes, CDs and videos on parenting.
No excuses! Grab some and get occupied. Knowledge and insight bring confidence. No matter what stage you're at, you are able to enhance yourself
. Thirdly, learn to temper your reaction in demanding parenting scenarios. Simpler said than done! But you are able to make a conscious attempt to remain calm and help remind yourself of Dr Peale's advice (You are more capable than you believe you're!), and you are able to apply what you have been studying about family dynamics.
A fourth method to increase your parenting abilities is to build yourself in some manner. Yes, keep in mind those piano lessons you as soon as took, or that art class you attended? Interests such as these are fantastic tension remedies and they develop self- confidence - which is important for parenting. If you feel you're already confident in other matters, but it is only in parenting you feel a lack, why not take up some activity with your children? Learning together brings you together, and could be fantastic fun
! Finally, avoid any temptation to go it on your own. Nature designed us to be social creatures. Seek out advice from grandparents, relatives, pals. Conquer your pride. Talk about your parenting issues with others and draw on the communal strength. And d'you know what? You'll find you're not the only one. Let's work on parenting collectively, as a community.
Confident parents raise confident kids.
Take action today. If you do nothing, you are able to anticipate more of the exact same old worry, tension, ill-feeling, etc. etc. Zap these negative trends as soon as and for all. To give yourself a real boost, check out our web site. And why not join our free monthly e-zine, Family Features? To show our gratitude we'll send you a totally free six-day e-mail course entitled A Step-By-Step Guide To Positive Parenting.
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1 comments:
Yes I agree with you that we should tel kids that don't get nervous in fact we should always encourage them so that they feel confident.
Great post..It is really helpful.Keep posting like this...
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